We definitely understand that stress is apart of all of our lives and there is no formula that can make it disappear. However, there is a way we can reduce stress and alleviate those uncomfortable moments.
How do you view stress? How does it fit into your life? Do you control the amount of stress you take on or does it control you? A few questions to ask yourself when you’re settled in and relaxing.
Stress is a state of mind. It’s usually the unknown that never happens to us that has our minds and nerves all over the place because we think it may happen. And for those situations that actually occur, how do we act or react?
If we look at Stress from these 6 phases, we can step back and review our perspective and visualize what we are honestly allowing ourselves to get overwhelmed by. These steps has helped me to break down my issues one piece at a time until the issue no longer remained.
Step 1- Survey what is the issue and if there is one, what needs to change.
Step 2- Transform negative thinking into positive thoughts
Step 3- Re-evaluate the issue to gain understanding
Step 4- Execute a plan of action
Step 5- Strengthen your ability to accept change
Step 6- Support your goals and future endeavors
These phases have allowed me to reduce the stress in my life because I have come to realize that every situation does not require my time nor energy so why focus on it.
Be selective and determine what actually deserves your time, energy, and attention because we all know once these things are gone, we can’t get them back.
How do you define perception? Do you believe it to be your truth? How do you determine the difference between perception and reality? These are a few questions to think about when offering up an opinion.
Perception for me is my opinion based on what I choose to believe. As I look at current and past events that has taken place in society, I often wonder about perception. Is the mental impression that is made in our minds more powerful to believe than actual reality? What sets apart our ability to believe something false vs what is factual?
Perception is real to me because if someone truly wants to believe in something or someone no matter what the facts or truth is, the perception becomes their reality. Be careful not to fall in the trap of taking on someone else’s beliefs that are not you own! It’s perfectly fine to question your own beliefs and to get a better understanding of why you choose to believe what you think to be your truth!
We are 3 months away before the ending of 2018 and as I look over this year, I remember where I was at this time in 2017. So much has happened and so many things have changed. I sit back and question my decisions and my thoughts in this thing called life.
As I gather my thoughts, it’s clear to see how I have transformed while transitioning. Do you know what that feels like? It’s one of the most uncomfortable feelings you can imagine. Everything that I thought was important to me was suddenly not of interest to me anymore and things I thought I would never be interested in suddenly took precedence over the old.
When God is using you to do something greater, you will find a degree of uncertainty and unease. This is when you know you’re on a faith walk trusting and believing it will work out for your good. I had to stop fighting myself and allow the transformation to take place internally so that I can reflect on the outside what was happening in the inside.
Sometimes we have to purge from the inside to ensure we are clean before we can move forward. Anyone can do an external makeover and still be dirty internally.
Stop trying to convince yourself that you are not worthy of the calling God has on your life. One thing we must all remember is that God doesn’t call those that are QUALIFIED, he qualifies those that are CALLED!! Are you listening for your call?
What does success mean to you? Have you ever sat down and really thought about and defined what it means to be successful? I hope each of you understand that success means something different for each person. What I believe to be success may not be the same as the next person. We live in a social media world where everyone is fighting for the spotlight of fame and fortune to be recognized as being successful.
I’m sure you are asking what does success means to me. Well, I’m glad you asked! Success means more to me than glitter and gold. What I mean by that is to say I need more than luxury cars, lavish jewelry, expensive clothes, etc. I need something that is only given to me through my inner being. My idea of success is having Peace! I say this because no one can steal my peace and no one is in charge of whether or not I receive my peace. When I am able to sleep comfortably at night without the fear of worrying about my children, or wondering how a bill will be paid, or questioning if my health will fail me; is far more substantial than living for glitter and gold.
Because we live in such an autonomous world, we want everyone to believe we are succeeding even when we are not. It is okay to be transparent and authentic with yourself because at the end of the day, you are the only person that really know what sacrifices you have made to get to where you are. You don’t owe anyone any explanations for your decisions about your life. The best thing you can do is to be open and honest with yourself and know that your life is your business. Those who you are trying to attract will only be there for all the wrong reasons!
Remember, “what do you benefit if you gain the whole world and lose your own soul” Mark 8:36. Be mindful in how you attempt to attract others. Your character will reveal who you are whether you perceive yourself as successful or not. When you stop comparing your life to someone else’s, you will find that you are indeed successful and for that you should be thankful!
I recently attended a webinar that made me rethink what was most important to me. I asked myself the question, if I had to choose what was important to me at this point in my life, I would choose my family. I’m not saying that everyone should have the same decision as I do because our decisions are based on different factors.
The first factor is our age. We all have different goals and are driven by different interests dependent upon our age and how we process things. I’m sure at the age of 25, I had a different perspective and my drive was strictly focused on my career.
Another factor is our commitment to what interests us the most. We will spend more time doing the things we enjoy rather than the things we don’t . Determine what is important to you and make the choice to do what it takes to achieve your goals.
Your determination will take you a long way, but only if you are honest with yourself. Start making plans to do those things you have always dreamed of doing. Put some action toward those goals and watch them come to fruition!!
Our biggest obstacle is Fear and the person standing in the mirror!!